6 Signs You may Be Enabling a Drug Addict

6 Signs You May Be Enabling A Drug Addict Pacific Manor Recovery

How to Tell if You’re Enabling a Loved One’s Drug Addiction

Any friend or family member that has watched their loved one battle against addiction will tell you that it’s simply heartbreaking. If you truly love another person, you will want to do everything for that person in hopes that they will be able to recover from that addiction. However, it’s important to understand that there is a fine line between helping the person that you love and enabling them. If you are committed to helping your loved one to work through their addiction, it’s critical that you have an understanding of this unique difference so that you can help that person to make a change in their life without harming it more.

If you or a loved one are struggling with addiction, Pacific Manor Recovery can help. Call (888) 300-4370 to learn more.

What is Enabling?

It’s important for any friend or family member to understand the unique differences between enabling and truly helping a person that is suffering from an addiction to drugs. Unfortunately, many times the lines get blurred between the two. It’s important to remember that enabling is when you take steps to delay the full effect of the consequences of a person’s actions.

The Difference Between Enabling and Helping

It’s difficult to discern whether you’re helping your loved ones or enabling them. The best thing that you can do not only for yourself but for the person in your life that may be suffering from their addiction is to take the time to speak with an addiction therapist about the situation. He or she will be able to provide you with more guidance regarding whether or not you are enabling or helping.

Examples of Enabling Behavior

Caring about a person that has an addiction is something that is never easy. When it comes to a person that is in active addiction, here are some examples of enabling:

  • Financial enabling

It should come as no surprise that it is incredibly expensive to manage. Many times, a person finds themselves in financial turmoil and stress as a result of their addiction which is when they begin to look to other avenues for the financial help that they need. Often, they will reach out to friends or family members for financial assistance not only when it comes to supporting their addiction but also paying for regular bills. This can be a tug on the heartstrings of anyone. However, giving a person suffering from addiction money is not the answer. For instance, while that person may promise up and down that they are going to use these funds for their well-being, they could just as easily use them to further fuel their addiction. 

  • Making excuses for behavior 

Think about how many times you have had to think of justifications for the behavior of a loved one while they are under the influence of their drug of choice. Perhaps that person missed a family event and you simply covered for them by saying that they weren’t feeling well. Maybe your spouse is the person that is suffering from an addiction and you called them out of work because they were too sick to go in. All of these excuses on behalf of your loved one only lead to giving them more freedom to continue to make poor choices. 

  • Avoiding the situation 

For many people, the only way that they are able to cope with the fact that their loved one has an addiction is simply to ignore it. Although all of the signs of addiction may be staring them right in the face, they simply cannot comprehend the fact that a person that they love is suffering from this type of disease. As a result, the poor behavior of the addict is never addressed and continues.

  • Controlling behavior 

A mistake that many people make when it comes to addiction is believing that they have any type of control over the situation. Trying to control the behavior of another person is seemingly impossible, especially for a person that is in active addiction. 

  • Taking over different responsibilities 

Trying to cover for your addicted loved one by taking over their responsibilities. This removes the urgency that your loved one needs to get things done and they would have gotten them done were they not under the influence. 

  • Placing blame 

Remember, your loved one is suffering from a disease. It’s easy for a person on the other side of that disease to try to place blame for addiction on anything else. However, this can lead to a person not taking full responsibility and committing to treatment.  

  • Take part in family therapy 

Family therapy is a critical aspect of any treatment plan because it can provide all of your loved one’s guidance regarding the healing that they need. During family therapy, you will meet in a neutral environment and have the opportunity to talk about the events that led up to the relationship issues within your family. From there, you can make a plan together as to how you are going to resolve those issues going forward. 

  • Become an active participant in a treatment plan 

It’s always encouraged that loved ones be active participants in a treatment plan. This will help not only the person that is in recovery but you to develop a better understanding of addiction and the terrible physical and psychological toll that it can take on any person. 

Treatment for Drug Addiction at Pacific Manor 

At Pacific Manor, we understand that each person that reaches out to us for help has their own personal struggles with addiction. However, we also have experience in providing guidance to family members or friends who reach out to us out of concern for their loved ones. We are always happy to take the time to explain to you the treatment options that we have available at our drug rehab. Here is a brief overview of what you can expect at Pacific Manor: 

  • Detox

The first few hours and days of recovery may be the hardest both physically and psychologically. The reason for this is that it’s possible that the person that is suffering from addiction will experience certain withdrawal symptoms that may render them unable to care for themselves during this stretch of time. Detox is the first step in the road to recovery because it provides you with the secure environment that you need to work toward your sobriety and receive the medical care that you need. 

  • Inpatient treatment 

An inpatient program is a structured program that provides the client with the opportunity to live on campus with our treatment team and receive the around-the-clock care and support that they need as they begin to make these important changes in their life. Although the bulk of your time in an inpatient program will be spent taking part in different forms of therapy, you will also have ample time to relax and enjoy our luxurious accommodations. 

  • Outpatient treatment 

Outpatient treatment, on the other hand, is a more flexible form of treatment. This type of treatment is a popular option among clients that may be working or going to school full or even part-time. At Pacific Manor, we will help you to develop a treatment plan that does not cause you to feel as though you need to choose between your recovery or your professional or personal responsibilities. 

If you would like to learn more about what we have to offer at Pacific Manor, a member of our treatment team is always available to speak with you. Please reach out to us today at (888) 300-4370.